October 13, 2007
In leading and persuading others, one’s tone is essential; kindness and gentleness go much further than pulling rank or making demands. Alistair Begg points out an inspired example of this principle in Paul’s appeal for Onesimus’s freedom in his epistle to Philemon. After running away from his master, Onesimus providentially found Paul and was converted. Paul then approached Philemon not on the basis of his apostleship but because of their shared brotherhood in God’s family. In this, he modeled how we ought to encourage one another.
8Accordingly, though I am bold enough in Christ to command you to do what is required, 9yet for love's sake I prefer to appeal to you—I, Paul, an old man and now a prisoner also for Christ Jesus— 10I appeal to you for my child, Onesimus,2 whose father I became in my imprisonment. 11(Formerly he was useless to you, but now he is indeed useful to you and to me.) 12I am sending him back to you, sending my very heart. 13I would have been glad to keep him with me, in order that he might serve me on your behalf during my imprisonment for the gospel, 14but I preferred to do nothing without your consent in order that your goodness might not be by compulsion but of your own accord. 15For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, 16no longer as a bondservant3 but more than a bondservant, as a beloved brother—especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.
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